“Pornography reveals that male pleasure is inextricably tied to victimizing, hurting, exploiting; that sexual fun and sexual passion in the privacy of the male imagination are inseparable from the brutality of male history. The private world of sexual dominance that men demand as their right and their freedom is the mirror image of the public world of sadism and atrocity that men consistently and self- righteously deplore. It is in the male experience of pleasure that one finds the meaning of male history.”—Andrea Dworkin, Pornography: Men Possessing Women (via pomocritical)
“He took her note out of his pocket and read it again for the seventh time that day. As he did, he grew exactly the same smile as before.
“Thank you for making me hungry and I’m not talking only about food; you make me hungry in so many wonderful ways.”—Jonathan Carroll (via thatkindofwoman)
“Writing down your thoughts is both necessary and harmful. It leads to eccentricity, narcissism, preserves what should be let go. On the other hand, these notes intensify the inner life, which, left unexpressed, slips through your fingers. If only I could find a better kind of journal, humbler, one that would preserve the same thoughts, the same flesh of life, which is worth saving.”—Anna Kamieńska, In That Great River: A Notebook (via bookmania)
“Don’t you find it odd," she continued, "that when you’re a kid, everyone, all the world, encourages you to follow your dreams. But when you’re older, somehow they act offended if you even try.”—Ethan Hawke, The Hottest State (via commovente)
“Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come?”—Rumi (via inheavenalliswell)
“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”—John Lennon (via observando)
I know time heals, but I like the pain of missing somebody. It’s sharp and it’s cold and reminds me they were real. Sometimes I don’t want a person to just become another memory, a scar that healed with time. The pain helps keep them as something I have instead of something I had. I know time heals, but what if I don’t want to?
“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”—Attributed to Howard Thurman (via glamour)
1. You are very aware of the expectations of others. They also affect how you feel about yourself. 2. You are constantly worried about how others view you/ what they are thinking about you. 3. You choose NOT to do things that others don’t approve of…